“Falling or Gliding into the Seasons of our Lives”
Change comes every year about this time. Change of school season, weather season, resulting in an individual season change. When I think about the word “falling” I envision a falling ball or one of the kids falling down while running, a hard thump! But, I would rather envision the word “gliding” with grace, the slow falling of a leaf from a tree. Sometimes changes come gracefully and we slowly shift into that season, but other times changes are dropped on us like a falling ball. How do you react to change? Do you fall hard or glide gracefully? I’m sure we all want to envision ourselves gliding gracefully, but reality probably puts us somewhere in between.
As I have grown and changed during different seasons of my life, I have learned it’s all in how we handle the change, that will impact our overall happiness. Imagine this, items that are heavier fall faster- heavy balls, heavy bricks, apples from a tree and on the opposite end of that is, items that are lighter, fall slower; feathers, leaves, frisbees. So keeping that in mind, if you are “heavy” your going to fall into the new with a THUD! but if you fall lighter or glide with a light attitude about the “new,” you will fall with more grace! This analogy helps me think about keeping a light, go with the flow attitude. Obviously to a certain extent; I could never go without my meal plan and weekly activity schedule, but adjusting with the right attitude, falling with a lightweight approach. Realizing you might have to make changes to when you prep dinner, run errands, or get your workout in. Our new favorite time is getting up super early and having a cup of coffee on the front porch together before the kids get up! Finding time to still do all the things you love to do as an individual and a family, but it may just look different, and that’s okay!
Fall, Spring, and Summer bring new sports activities to our household along with many of you! This always calls for a MASTER PLAN!! We have always had to juggle practices here and there, but this was our first time to have to adjust to really late nights!!! Having a degree in Early Childhood Development it was REALLY hard for me to adjust!! One evening, as I sat on the front porch watching the kids play with Ryan as we waited to go to practice, it dawned on me; this is our new found time together~ before practices! Each season may not always look the same, but we have to keep our hearts open for how we can adjust happily to the new season that is ahead of us. Just like with weather seasons, we change our outer wear, but with life seasons we have to more importantly be ready to change our inner ware. What is going to make us happy!?
I believe my biggest role right now is raising my kids; to be well rounded and ready for the real world. One important task is helping them to not have opinions about things before we even attempt them, willing and ready to adapt to change. This is asking for a lot of self control!! As adults, we have to remember not to talk out loud about frustrations we might have and not to talk with others in front of our kids about every single challenge. We should embrace each new day with a happy heart, with positive words of confidence, as we face the day God has given us to live. Changes happen every day- everywhere-our entire lives and if we don’t equip or kids with the tools to handle those changes, we are setting them up for failure not success. And face it, it is so much more enjoyable to go through the day with a happy spirit!
As we begin to place our pumpkins and get ready for the fall season. We hope to find ourselves settling in, slowing down, and recognizing the changes taking place in our kids and ourselves! Finding happiness in those new times spent together, whether it be in the yard, on a practice field, or riding in the car and cherish them! Embrace each new season of life with the same expectant attitude! Find what makes you happy as an individual and what makes your family happy, making changes along the way to meet everyone’s needs. Gliding through the seasons of our lives, instead of falling hard into each new season and reminding our kids change is okay!
(photos taken by Maggie Allman)